i just got out of my psychology of women class and we talked about violence tonight. it just absolutely sickens me to know that women are sexually abused, sexually harassed, and raped so much. i was aware this happens but it's occurring way too frequently. i do understand that it comes from a cycle. the boy was raised in a home where domestic violence was reality for him and carried those behaviors over to the relationship he is in now. and then the women wants to leave but can't because she is threatened by her partner that he will kill her and/or the kids if she leaves. we also talked about self defense classes that women might take to help them in the future. i personally believe it won't work and that it would only work in an ideal situation. in an ideal situation, the man doesn't have a weapon of some sort and is just trying to physically attack you and you remember the self defense move and get away from him. when you are in the moment, he is most likely threatening you with a weapon like a knife to your throat saying that he will kill you. are you going to be thinking about what self defense move to do? probably not. you are probably going to submit to whatever the demands are to save your life and the maybe the life of your family members.

another thing that came to my attention what was there really isn't much "proof". for example, the guy can say that it was consensual sex and it's basically just words against words. the man could also say that she asked for it and is now turning it around because she regrets doing it. it was interesting to see how many women don't press any charges against the man because if they do, they need to go to court and explain their whole situation out into the public which is just furthermore embarrassing herself and exposing herself. after the court ruling, i was shocked to see that some of the guys got PROBATION for the crime they committed. more recently there was the chris brown and rihanna incident where she was obviously hit numerous amounts and what was the ruling in that case? chris brown got probation and have to serve an "x" amount of community service hours. really? her face got pummeled.

where are the laws protecting women from domestic violence? where are the laws trying to prevent these kinds of incidents happening in the first place? are domestic violence laws even being examined?

i know that this entry is pretty out there and might not make much sense because i'm pretty fired up from class but i just want to throw it out there and see what you guys think.

so i should be sleeping but since i can't i might as well write an entry right? haha

well the fall semester has started and i'm hoping this'll be my last one :) i'm definately ready to graduate and head into the working world.

one thing that's been on my mind is just seeing how college can help you to mature into an adult. personally i've experienced a lot of ups and downs, difficult and easy decisions, and the good and the ugly. of course i've made stupid and irrational decisions but i learned from those consequences and haven't made those mistakes again. during college your priorities shift too. of course as soon as you enter college you want to have your fun and meet as many people as possible, while school is sort of on the back burner. now that i'm ready to graduate, partying is the last thing on my mind. plus i don't find enjoyment in going out that much anyways. i think college makes you become more responsible over your own actions and teaches you many life lessons that no matter how many times your parents tell you something, you won't understand it until you experience it yourself.

this entry is a fail because i can't gather my thoughts haha. i'll write again once my mind is focused :)

so jon and kate's marriage is over..and they had affairs. okkkayyy
WHAT ABOUT THE POOR KIDS!??

my gosh.
im disappointed.